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I was perusing through the internet yesterday and came across some words from Beyonce that I thought I had to share. 

"There's nothing more beautiful than a woman [who] takes care of [herself],..When you drink water, take care of your skin, work out, and work on your mind, body and spirit. You are going to be beautiful, regardless."


"I really believe that everyone is supposed to be different, and whatever is a natural weight for you is usually what looks best."


This got me thinking how we as women are always stressing about how we look and trying to change our bodies so that we look like some celebrity. What we often forget is that we are all different. We have different bone structure which, in the end plays a big role on how much weight is ideal for you. Lifestyles and diets greatly influence how we look. But as women we need to embrace who we are and how we look and even when we'll rant and rave about having a variety of flaws, there may not be much we can do to repair these "faults" so we may as well embrace them. I believe in dressing to highlight my strong points and draw attention away from my not so strong areas. This is very important especially well following fashion trends-make the trend work for you by choosing items that are flattering. 
I was watching Tyler Perry's "Why Did I Get Married" and there's a scene which has stuck with me. I keep replaying these words in my mind, Troy says to Sheila, "...you know if you are not happy with the way you look, change it..." But I wouldn't do this just to get someone else's approval. I remember in my first year of University, someone I was staying with said something to me about my weight and I felt really bad because I had never thought of myself as she put it (her words are too painful to put down) and after that it was very hard for me to stop thinking about them. I was living in a new country and had changed my diet so I believe there was bound to be some effect on my body at first. I lost some weight eventually but I can't help but wonder whether I did it for myself or did her words have some effect on me. 
Remember that your body is yours. You have to love yourself and not pay attention to external pressures that say we all have to look a certain way to be beautiful. By loving who you are and trying to be your best self, you'll build self-confidence.
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