Motivational Monday | How I Stopped Settling For Good Enough

*I'm the sort of person who believes that I have room for improvement as regards my personal growth. Every Monday, I will put up posts on different topics all under the blanket of personal development, in an effort to share my journey with you and hopefully inspire you in the process.

For a long time, both in my work and in my personal life, I knew that I wasn't doing my best or receiving the best. I had started settling for good enough.

You see when I was in primary school, I made a deal with my mum. I really wanted a pair of boots. My mum told me that if I scored 400 out of 500 marks in my monthly exams, she would buy me a pair. I worked so had that month and I scored more than my target of 400 marks. I knew at that moment that I was capable of achieving my personal best if I put in a lot of hard work. (A nice reward at the end just serves as an added bonus).

As a personal shopper, I am tasked with helping people with their wardrobes. Whenever I am sourcing clothes for my clients, I want them to look awesome, I want them so well put together (i) because I believe that when you look good on the outside, your confidence grows exponentially and (ii) I want my work to bring me more clients. The only way for me to get more referrals is to do work that is very good and not just good enough.

When it comes to relationships, I am slowly learning what works for me and what doesn't. I am not afraid to say what I like and dislike, even if it might mean the end of some relationships.

Steps to stop settling for good enough

1. Write down your goals

Be it work or career related or the type of relationships you want to have, always note down what works for you and what doesn't. Write them down for future reference.

2. Revisit your goals every day

This will serve to remind you to do your best so that you can achieve your goals.

3. Keep yourself constantly motivated

The goals you wrote down will serve as motivation. Read and internalize inspiring stories and quotes from people you admire.

4. Shut out your detractors

Keep negativity far away from you. Let the words of negative people slide off your back.

5. Strive for the best, not perfection

Do your very best. Use your strengths to propel you and work on improving your weaknesses.

Have you found this post helpful? Do let me know in the comments below.

Thank you for stopping. xo

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